Leaders at Risk

One of the cool things about the leadership track that I’m serving at right now is the breadth and exposure we’re getting to so many quality leaders and insights. Late last week we heard from Marc Rutter, the national director in the campus ministry of Human Resources and Leadership Development. He gave a talk on “Leaders at Risk”. I’ve heard it at least twice before, but it is a sobering message to be reminded of how so many leaders have been derailed in their ministries because of character issues. His talk came as a result of a joint study of fallen leaders between him, Dr. Henry Cloud, and others. They identified 6 main profiles of ministry leaders who were at risk for some sort of major moral failure (sexual, moral…).

They are as follows with some rough notes I made describing each one:

  1. Narcissistic Star Who Rises: selfish, gifted, talented, idealized by others because of gifting, successful so ministry becomes their measure, go all bad if confronted on character issues, success is more important that
  2. Narcissistic Star Who Doesn’t Rise: selfish, not coachable, see themselves as not needing to learn and grow, like 1 they tend to fall in moral area
  3. No Boundaries Person: put things at risk because they don’t say no to themselves and others
  4. Floaters: don’t do bad things, they don’t do much at all, gravitate to place of low accountability, itinerate complainers; look for a lateral move if someone moves in; allergic to authority
  5. Irresponsible Person: just don’t do any work and aren’t productive;
  6. Authority Problem: out to do destructive things to ministry, black and white thinkers, they’re never wrong

I would say all of us can either relate to one of these profiles in some way or know some one who does. It really reemphasized the importance to me of doing the hard work of character formation in our relationships with the Lord so that our scope of ministry does not outgrow our walks with the Lord.

If you want more info on leaders at risk or are intrigued let me know and I can send you more of my notes from that time.

Pinata Softball

Joe Priola is demonstrating his perfect pinata swing. He didn’t keep this one in play, but I bet that form could net a lot of candy on Cinco de Mayo.

Despite Joe’s best efforts to hit the ball about 500 feet (which he almost did a couple times if not for a light pole), we couldn’t pull off the second game of our double-header tonight. I was stoked to take a break from compiling 360 degree feedback and play some ball, but playing two games in this kind of heat was pretty intense.

Somehow I became the shortstop on this team. I thought those days were about 5 years and 30 lbs. behind me. I had a lot of anxiety going into the doubleheader since I wasn’t tested in the first game. Games 2 & 3 provided a great challenge and I was pleasantly surprised when I was able to make about 12 or so putouts in the two games tonight, especially since I couldn’t get any of my line drives to drop in for hits.

It was fun to have a competitive game with a little drama. Though self-umpiring did lead to some controversy, we had our chances to win that second game and couldn’t make it happen. Brad pitched great both games, but we came up short with the bats and had a few key defensive miscues at bad times. It was fun though. Tonight we went out with the families of the other guys to get to know them. There’s a bunch from the northwest and from south carolina so it was fun getting to know them a bit more.

Now, off to ice my arm, knees, and ankles.

Photo: Jason Sorge demonstrating how much he pays attention to base coaching. Spud should get a bullhorn.

Family Trip to Urgent Care

Because we don’t have a primary care physician and all three of us were fairly sick we took a family trick to urgent care here in Fort Collins. Bronchitis, ear infections, sinus infections, and a few other things were diagnosed and we got on the necessary medications and antibiotics to start the road to recovery.

Because this was a three hour endeavor, Morgan overcame her deep fear of doctor’s to spontaneously begin serving as the urgent care host/receptionist. She got up in the chair at the table on the right and started pretending to type on a computer. Unprompted, she asked a nurse walking by, “Can I help you?” Then she turned to us and asked, “What’s the problem?” And then in the middle of my attempted response she yelled, “Next!”

She was really funny and provided relief to the dozen or so deathly ill in the lobby, but it amazes me how much she absorbs when she is in these environments. She certainly has been in enough Dr.’s offices to pick up the receptionist “cliches.”


Future Career?

What is the Leadership Track?

I would not be surprised if many out there, especially those who are a part of team of ministry partners, have a sense of ambiguity about what it is that we’re doing out here in Fort Collins, CO for 6 weeks. Here’s a layout of what we’re doing and why we think it’s strategic…

The Leadership Track is a leadership development venue to help senior staff with Campus Crusade grow in all facets of ministry leadership. It’s designed to provide leadership equipping, individual and group coaching and community, and personal and ministry feedback. One of the reasons this is a strategic assignment for us this summer is that serving as a coach in this venue allows me to integrate my seminary degree in Transformational Leadership with my role and leadership within the Campus Ministry.

It’s very fun playing the role of mentor and coach in light of both my staff experience and my education. Overall we really wanted to interact with a broader range of leaders within the ministry at this point in our own development and we have prayed that God would use some of this extended time with organizational leaders and other staff to refresh our vision and motivation in the ministry.

My schedule is as follows: The Leadership Track meets from 8:30 – 12pm every morning to dive into a variety of leadership issues – from spiritual leadership to vision casting to stewardship and results. I meet with 4 guys for 2 hrs. each every week to help them examine their own spiritual leadership and to help them construct personal development plans that will guide them in their development over the coming years. We meet as a small group once a week as well. All in all it’s a full schedule (considering I am finishing my last seminary class right now), but it’s fun. And I’ll sneak away to play softball once or twice a week 🙂

Christine has been planning on taking a class out here and we’re trying to figure out how to make that happen with Morgan. But the Leadership Track has a weekly evening Bible study for wives who are going through the Leadership Track or wives of spouses. She’s really enjoyed connected with other staff women. She’s also been very encouraged to find out that there is a weekly support group for staff mom’s with children with disabilities and she’ll be participating in that this summer as well. Both of those are big felt needs. As far as the class, Christine’s trying to decide whether to take a class on the Psalms or a class on motherhood and ministry.

This past week was catching up with things and getting everything in order as well as getting to know people and for me, getting to know the guys I’m coaching. They’re all great guys hailing from all over (Washington, South Carolina, Tennessee, and Los Angeles). This coming week I’m working to compile and summarize 360 degree feedback for each of them so you can be praying for me and them in this endeavor.

We’re confident that this was where we have needed to be this summer, but we do miss being home.

Softball and Ring Around the Rosie

Today was a very full day (8:30am – 10pm), but one hour in the middle was dedicated to the Campus Crusade CSU intramural softball league which started. In 2001 when we were out here taking classes, I was fortunate enough to be on the championship team with other Pacific Southwesters. This year there are 3 returnees – Brad Fulton, Jason Sorge, and Myself – from that team and we’ve been teamed up with a couple others from the PSW as well as a bunch of dudes from the Mid-South – places like South Carolina. Good team, at least by the looks of it. We won today 32-2 I think because our team really can swing the bats. Joe Priola surprised us all with his all around game and skills.

But my favorite moment was when Morgan came with Christine to watch and came over to me and told me, “Dada, you run fast!” Of course I was encouraged even if it wasn’t really true. Then while the game was still in progress she came to me while I was waiting and asked, “Dada, can we play ring around the rosie?” It was so tender. We played a little bit, but I wasn’t able to play ring around the rosie in the middle of the other 12 guys on my team. Morgan’s awesome.

Reasons Why Leaders Need to Love God With Their Minds

We’re now in full swing at the leadership track here in Fort Collins. For those of you who can’t get a handle on what we’re doing in Colorado right now I’ll share more later, but was motivated today by one of the first guest speakers we were able to hear from.

Dave Horner is on the faculty of the philosophy department at Talbot School of Theology and he is out here teaching one of classes for staff called “Christian Worldview.” He came over to the leadership track to share with us 5 reasons we need to love God with our mind. Here they are:

1. Because Ideas Have Consequences (citing examples like Auschwitz)
2. Because God Commanded it (Matthew 22:37-40)
3. Because it’s How God Created Us (Gen 1:26-28)
-We’re made in the image of God which involves being made as rational (thinking) beings
-We’re called to steward all of ways in which our mind (brain) works and use them all to the glory of God.
4. Because it’s How We Flourish
– We are called to think deeply and love deeply; non-thinking leads to shallow spirituality and community. He said, “We’re not all called to be scholars, but we are all called to be thinkers.”
5. Because it’s a Blast (Remember he’s a philosophy professor and I know at least one guy from my seminary cohort that would challenge this point)

He made a comment that also stood out to me – that the early Christians out-lived, out-thought, and out-died their generation. Can that be said of our contemporary generation? Are we out-thinking our generation? Are we out-living it? Horner made a connection between the two (thinking and living), but was clear in that he was arguing for a growth in wisdom as opposed to just factual (or propositional) knowledge. It was challenging and motivating.

One of the things I took away though was that I need to find more people or get with those more regularly that enjoy thinking and talking through the same issues I enjoy or am challenged by.

Anyway, there’s a lot more to come. Also, if you’ve been praying for my dad’s heart procedure, he’s doing well and recovering. He’ll stay the night in the hospital for observation and be released tomorrow if all’s well. Thanks for praying!

On Father’s Day

For Father’s Day I thought I would share some thoughts of what it’s like to be a father as well as share some reflections on my own father.

Prior to Morgan’s birth I had some anxiety about becoming a father. There are the usual issues that were running through my mind like the pressures of provision and the huge increase in responsibility. However, a large part of my anxiety came from wondering if I could or would measure up to the father that I had.

My dad is the most patient man I know and has one of the biggest servant’s hearts of anyone I know. He’s quite long-suffering and I long ago came to the conclusion that if he was angry at someone or pretty frustrated with someone – that person more than likely had done more than enough to merit such a response. However those times are so few that I could probably name them on one hand.

I’ve seen that part of entering into fatherhood is reconciling the differences between my father and I. I am quite different from my dad and because of that I’ve wondered how could I be the same kind of dad for my kids as he was to me and my sisters when I am so different. While I’ve grown to become more patient, I’m not the most natural servant nor am I incredibly long-suffering. I’m much more reactionary, intense, and cognitive while he demonstrates patience, approachability and warmth. These are some of the qualities I most admire in him and as a result I think I must have grown anxious in measuring myself against his strengths.

Upon the birth of Morgan, I was amazed at how natural fatherhood came. Things changed the moment Morgan came into the world at 3 and 1/2 pounds. I was surprised at how much fatherhood seemed to flow instinctively. Almost right off the bat, there were parts of me that were drawn out of me because of Morgan that I didn’t quite know were there. Over time I’ve seen how God can use who He’s made me to be to be the right father for Morgan, our new baby boy to come, and any other children that may come our way. It’s a great thing to be free from comparison so that I might be able to be free to be the man and father that God’s called me to be and that I want to be.

That’s not the end of my point however. What I’ve realized is that the father I am or that I am enjoying being to Morgan is not totally disconnected from my dad. While comparing myself to him does no good, I see that so much of who I am reflects him and the kind of relationship that he has had with me. I feel secure in who I am for the most part and I have felt secure as a man in the roles of both husband and father. I’m seeing more and more how rare this is as so many husbands and fathers struggle daily with their manhood and sense of self.

So I may never be the father my dad was to me, but I can enjoy knowing that the father I am and will be is in no small measure a result of my dad’s love, time, and sacrifice. I don’t need to fear what I am not, but I am most grateful for who he’s helped me to become.

I cannot fail to mention how amazing it is to watch him with Morgan. It’s almost like I get a glimpse of how he was with us as kids.

Also, if you could pray for him – his second surgery to have stents put into arteries around his heart is on Tuesday. Pray that the procedure goes well and that he has a quick recovery.

Grandma Rose

Last night we celebrated Rose’s 60th birthday. It’s the first time in about a year and half that Christine’s whole family was all together and it was fun to celebrate Rose. Christine’s sister Laurie led a process of putting together an incredible photo album along with some poems and writings from members of the family. I thought I would include the poem that Christine put together for her mom’s album.

“The important thing about my mom
is that she is the most caring person I know.
She cares deeply for others.
She is a servant, hardworker, and loves to spoil us.
I can’t imagine the last few years without my mom.
She cared for me when life felt like more than I could bare.
She has provided for my family in ways I will never forget.
She is my mother and she is my friend.
I am forever grateful for my mom and I thank God for her.
But the most important thing about my mom
is that she is the most caring person I know.”

Rose has been great to get to know from the in-law perspective. She’s been very good to me over the years and quite encouraging. Some of my favorite moments were with her when we used to visit them when they lived in West Virginia, playing Mexican Train and Scrabble, and of course when she loves on Christine and Morgan. She’s a quality woman and it’s really fun producing grandchildren for her.

She assures me that there is much more to my value to the family than my reproductive capability 🙂

It’s a…

….BOY!

We found out in our last appointment just before our big trip to our summer assignment in Colorado. If you look to the right, you can see Baby Beav in all his glory. You can tell he doesn’t seem to be too shy around the camera.

I was expecting a girl, but I’m excited about the prospect of a baby boy and so is Christine. It feels new and exciting, though it’s totally new territory from where we’ve been with Morgan.

So we’re now beginning to think through names. Christine has vetoed all names including “Holmes” and “Beavis” so I’m gonna have to dig deep on this one.

We arrived safe and sound at Christine’s sister’s in Colorado and after a brief celebration of her mom’s 60th b-day we’ll be off to Fort Collins. Some people say the best part of a trip is the journey itself. With a 2 year old I might have to say that the best part of the trip is actually reaching your destination.

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